Emotions are valuable things, even the ones that leave you paralysed with fear or so raw and broken you don’t know if you will ever recover. They offer you lots of benefits once you know how to process them properly.
Because your emotions are always telling you something. They are natures way of spurring you
into some form of action.
Sometimes it can be difficult to understand how you feel because you can’t name the emotion. Whilst I don’t think we need to get to caught up in words it’s good to know that sometimes we might use a word to describe how we feel without realising the emotion it relates to.
I believe that knowledge is power. In order to gain a better understanding of our emotions and gain more control of them, stop them becoming overwhelming we need to start with naming them properly. This is also really helpful if you are someone who struggles with talking about how you feel.
For example sometimes we might say we feel annoyed, livid, furious, irritated. All of these words relate to the emotion of Anger.
If we feel agitated, bothered, fretful, jumpy, nervy, panicky, tense, uneasy or worried then the emotion would Anxiety.
How about humiliated, undignified, mortified or discredited? These all relate to the emotion of shame.
But where do emotions come from?
First comes the thought then follows the emotion. Our thoughts determine our feelings. If you think about the feelings associated with excitement; tingly, fluttery tummy, hot flush? The same feelings are associated with anxiety. The only difference is the thought.
If we gain better control over our thoughts it’s the building block to gaining control over our emotions.
Asking yourself these questions
Anxiety – What am I scared of?
Sadness- What have I lost?
Anger- How have my values been attacked?
Happiness – what have I gained?
Guilt – what personal rule have I broken?
Once you know how to label your emotions you can start to practice a technique called riding the wave. Imagine your feelings are a like large waves and rather than trying to push the wave back you embrace it. Let it wash over you. Name it and accept it. Acknowledge that this wave is temporary.
Give it a try and let me know how you get on.